Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Blowjobs; An Oral Dick-tation

There have been literally thousands of blogs, books, seminars, and lectures on blowjobs.  How to give a good one, why they feel good, anatomical discussions of the nerve endings in the underside of the head, and on and on and on…
 
So of course I have to put my two cents in here!  Don't worry; I am not going to bore you with tons of medical jargon, or try to disguise my true nature of loving to get my dick sucked off.  No, I am just a guy that knows what he likes, why he likes it, and has had a lot of fun having new things done to me.  Some I liked some I didn't. Oh and don't worry, a blog on cunnalings is on its way, so get ready to eat out more often!
 
Again, I am making an assumption here that just about everyone that is reading this has had oral sex, either giving a blowjob or receiving one. If this is not the case, oh dear lord get out and start having fun with your life!  There are these beautiful creatures that grace the earth, they are called women. So shut down the computer and go have a freaking social life!
 
Ok, where was I, oh right, blowjobs.  Most women like giving head (I said most, not all, don't get all offended yet…) personally; I think that there are a few factors that are involved in it.  First of which is control; with the act of sex being about penetrating the woman, and that, in most positions in sex, is the man controlling almost all of the thrusting. Giving head can be one of the few points where the woman is completely in control (With the added threat of teeth).  Second, guys love it, and most women like pleasing their guys, so giving them pleasure makes them happy.  Lastly, having great oral skills has become a sort of badge of honor in today's society.  This goes for both men and women; knowing that your man brags that you could suck start a Harley makes you feel sexually confident.
 
Quick note, if you have a girl that is willing to go down on you, don't you ever bitch about it!  Blowjobs are like pizza, even when it's bad it's still pretty good.  So thank your stars that she does and shut the fuck up…
 
The basics of a blowjob haven't changed since we've lived in caves.  Your lady takes your cock in her mouth and bobs her head up and down.  Simple, gets the job done, and as I have said before, this is enough to get 80% of guys off, with relative ease.  But let’s be honest for a moment, I would say that easily 75% of oral sex (both guys and girls) is not about getting off, as it is part of a couple's normal foreplay before sex.  So, getting him off is not always the goal, nor should it be. Here in lie the differing techniques that have been honed over the years of giving head.
 
With the orgasm not always the goal of every blowjob, keeping him from coming becomes a very hard thing to do during a blowjob.  There are as many techniques for this as there are women to try them.  But really, what it does come down to is the guy and the girl.  Most guys do not give women enough credit for their ability to read the body langue of the guy that they are giving the blowjob to.  Yeah, a lot of guys love to announce when they are about to cum, but most don't.  So reading his body movements, twitches, clenching, etc while concentrating on the job at hand or mouth should I say, is really hard.  Give the girls some serious credit here guys!
 
Now, on to those techniques!  These are the things I like during a blowjob, but like anything in sex your tastes may differ, but on the whole I have found that most guys like what I like, when it comes to getting head.
 
Starting off: As much as most guys say that they prefer for the girl to just start sucking away, they are lying dogs.  Men like to be teased just as much as girls do.  So when starting off, you may take some of his dick in your mouth just to get things wet, but you don't have to.  Licking around the head, the ridge just under the head and the whole shaft is very pleasurable.  Add that it also looks sexy as hell, and you will have him agreeing to clean out the garage if you start to suck him off.  Now, everyone knows that the head and just below the head is where most of the nerve endings are, hence where most stimulation comes from, but not all.  The entire cock is full of nerve endings, so pay attention to the whole thing.  Now not all guys like this, but while your licking around, go for the little bit of skin right at the base, just before the ball sack.  This can drive some men crazy as it is a part of their body that normally gets no attention, but can be very sensitive.
 
Taking it in: When you're ready, start taking his cock in your mouth.  For me, I like blowjobs to be done the opposite of sex; I like for her to take as much as she can when she first starts (I'm not talking deep throat here, just a lot).  For me it kind of wakes up all the nerve endings and lets me know what's coming. 
 
Flicking: Flicking your tongue across the head is very pleasurable for a guy.  Also, flick across the ridge just below the head, right where it makes that little dip up, again very pleasurable.
 
Sucking: Placing a little bit of suction while giving a blowjob can also be very pleasurable, but not too much as it can become painful.  Now stopping any movement, taking a fair bit of him in your mouth and alternating sucking and not sucking can also drive him crazy.
 
Hands: Now this one can go back and forth for men.  Some like it some don't, but either way it’s worth mentioning.  Just placing your hand around the base of his cock and gently squeezing, or moving it up and down a little bit can be very good for him.  Not only does this allow you to control and keep his dick where you want it, but it can stimulate him and keep him from bucking hard into you. 
 
Those women who are very skilled, can even alternate hands and give the effect of a constant thrust by running alternating hands down the lower part of his cock.  This does require some lube or it will be painful for him.  It may sound gross (But really, what part of sex is not gross when you think about it) but drooling and getting saliva all down him can really help with this.  When combined with the alternating sucking of his head, this can lead to a very wild ride for your guy!
 
Pulling off:  Letting him slip from your mouth and alternating taking him in and licking can be both very pleasurable, as well as serve to slower stimulation to prolong the fun.  Also, if your man loves to watch (Well, as much as he can in between his eyes rolling back in his head) then letting his cock run across your face a bit (not all over just around your mouth) can also be very pleasing and teasing, like you are letting him close but not taking it just yet.  Play around with this, see how he reacts.
 
Deep throat:  I like this, but not all the time and it is by no means a necessary act (IE, I will never dump a girl because she can't or won't).  Taking all of the cock in your mouth every once in a while feels great.  It stimulates the whole cock and is an incredible feeling for him.
 
Balls:  Now, this is something that I don't like very much, or at least has to be done right.  Mostly because when I am aroused my balls are very sensitive, so stimulation to them can become painful very quickly.  But some guys love it, so this is definitely something to try and see if he likes it.
 
Speed:  How fast you take him in and out of your mouth is up to you. Faster tingles the nerve ending over and over, where as slower gives each nerve more of a chance to feel the sensation.  As most of you know, faster will also mean that he will come faster, too.  But mixing it up and varying your speed gives him the best of both.
 
Accessories:  I love a girl with her tongue pierced; that little ball can add worlds of extra pleasure to anything oral, both kissing and giving head.  Plus, a girl with her tongue pierced gets the same results with a little less work.  Flicking the head is great, but you have to move you whole tongue back and forth quickly and that can become tiring after awhile.  A tongue ball means you can get the same effect by moving your tongue less and just moving the ball back and forth over the head.
 
Lipstick: I personally love it when a girl wears lipstick when she is giving head.  I think that it adds a bit more spice and sexiness to the act.  Also, I love the look of the lipstick mark around my shaft. 
 
Position:  This is critical, which is why it's near the end.  Positioning of both parties is about as important as the act itself.  If he is uncomfortable then he will not enjoy all the work that's being done to please him, and if she is uncomfortable then she will not want to do it as long.  So before starting, make sure both are comfortable. The easiest positions that I have found are to have him sitting on a couch or chair, legs wide and her kneeling on the floor.  This gives good height and easy access.  Next would be to have him lying on his back and have her on all fours.  But the best for both would be to have him lying on his back and her lying beside him.  This is especially nice if the other two positions are your usual, as it puts her head sideways to his cock and gives a slightly different feel than he is used to with her facing him.
 
To swallow or to spit:  Ah the age old question, and there is no right answer, save what she is comfortable doing.  So guys, if she doesn't want to, do not force the issue.  That is the only sure way to make sure that you'll never feel her lips around you again.  And don't try to trick her into doing it, that's just bullshit.  That being said, here is why guys like cumming in a girl's mouth. Men like stimulation through an orgasm, so do women on the whole too.  So, when they start to cum they want the sensations that made them come to continue.  The feeling of you swallowing as he comes continues the sucking sensations that made him cum in the first place.  This does not mean that I am trying to convert the "no way in hells"; I am just stating the why.
 
But what if you don't?  Well you do have a few other options.  When he's about to cum keep using your hands to finish him off.  Leaving him just about to cum and stopping completely is kind of mean, especially if there will be no intercourse.  But now this is where things get a bit dirty.  Ever wonder why you see cumshots in porn so much, well it's because guys like it.  No other reason, not for me, but I personally think it spurred from women not swallowing and the guy still cumming and liking how it looked.  Either way, your options are this; you can leave him in your mouth while he cums and spit it out or let it drool out if you run out of room, point him into a towel (make sure it's already there when you start) as you jerk him off, or just admit that you will have to take a shower afterwords and let things fly.  Now I don't recommend the last, not because some find it gross but because the clean up can be a bitch (Ever wonder why most porn couches are vinyl?).
 
But let's remember, most blowjobs, hell most oral sex is not about cumming.  It's about foreplay.  So, if you don't like to swallow, then don't let him cum and get on to the other fun to be had.
 
Well, that's my take on blowjobs.  Don't worry ladies, next week is one for you all about eating pussy, why every guy should do it and be good at it.  Hope I have enlightened some, started others thinking, and maybe helped out a few. Now get out there and have fun!!!
 
Later!
 
-Haven De Lancret

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