Thursday, February 11, 2010

Porn, the unrealistic expectation....

So I got thinking a few nights ago (after watching a rather bad porn) about the falsities and unrealistic expectations that porn puts forth.  Don't get me wrong, I like watching porn, especially with my SO.  Unfortunately there are still some that think and use porn like a play book for sex (poor sods). I hope to offer some clarity to those or to at least help those that think this way, get back to thinking about sex more realistically. 

Lets compare some other movie styles to porn.

We all know that when we watch a great action flick that the explosions are way over done.  Really, a gas tank is really going to blow the whole car like that from a single shot from a 9mm?  Just like not every girl is going to scream, moan, and talk like a porn star during sex.

Super Heroes have abilities like flying, razor sharp claws, or super long tongues.  You know that you are not going to wake up one morning or after some horrific radiation exposure, to be able to slap on spandex and go fight crime.  As such, not every girl wants to be thrown around the bed like rag doll and have her face screwed like jackhammer.

Romantic comedies all end with the good guy getting the girl and living happily ever after.  Any geek can tell you that relationships end no matter what you do.  Meaning... Not every girl is going to be the slut next door and sleep with you at the drop of the pants... um, hat.  I can't think of any girl that wants sex ALL the time, yes some more than others, but even the slutest women I have met still wants down time.

Now I am not saying that women and guys that act, fuck, and might as well be porn stars are not out there.  If that's the kind of SO that you want, then all the more power to you as you try and find them. BUT, do not get pissed, upset or angered when you don't find them.  It is not the person that you are trying to seduces fault that they do not match your ideals in bed.

Lets face it and be realistic for a few.  If you have found someone that wants to be with you, that you can talk with openly, wants to have any kind of sex with you, willing to indulge your fantasies by dressing up in an fast food uniform and bring you dinner in bed then think really hard, is living out a porn every night really that important?

As a side note, the book "How to Have a XXX sex life" is a bit misleading.  It is a good read, with some hot fantasizes, stories from real porn stars and some good advice that anyone can use during sex.  Some are as simple as how male porn stars keep going for so long, or at least what we think is so long.

Have a great new year everyone! Keep it safe, not only on the roads but also in bed!

-Haven De Lancret

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