Tuesday, May 11, 2010

What I needed to know about BDSM, I learned in Kindergarten

When it comes to BDSM, kink, and public play it really does come down to a few simple rules. Most of which we have been told since we were kids, but that some time people need to be reminded of these or some feel that because we, as a community are so open, that some of these rules do not apply.

So in no particular order...

1. If its not yours, DO NOT TOUCH IT! This goes for someones toys, body, SO, everything. If you do not own it, then you should not touch it/them. Asking politely will get you far, especially since we are such an open community.

2. Always were clean underwear. Remember that one? Well it fits not just for underwear, but for all your dress. Do not go to a public function, play party, or even to a date with your SO in dirty clothes! Now its not because you might be in car crash (but if you are in a crash, you have probably shit yourself already) but because you should always look good.

3. Put thinks away. This goes for even if you are at a munch or at home. Take care of your toys, take your empty glasses to the bar, and pick up after your self (Even if it is what the waitress is paid for) you will leave a better impression on the staff of our community.

4. Do not bother others. If someone is playing, or talking, or anything do not be rude and bother them. Wait for a proper time to talk or interject.

5. No means NO. I know that should not need to be said, but the end all is if someone tells you "NO" it means NO damnit! If its asking to use a toy, to touch someone, or to offer some advice.

The end all of this is respect. Respect others and their property. So if you are not going to be respectful, then stay home and for our sakes stay the hell off the internet too. Go pop in some cheep porn and have your jollies by yourself and leave the rest of us alone!

Now if you can follow these simple rules, then come one down to your local munch or event and lets have some respectful fun!

Keep it kinky!

Haven De Lancret

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